A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, when I broke up with my last ex and people (as in "the therapist I fired not long after") asked me "what I was looking for" in a man, I came up with the formula "calm, kind and competent." I think that narrowed my choices down to Jack Layton. So I should probably add 1) single, 2) not dead and 3) hot. (Not that Jack wasn't handsome.)